Male ejaculation and orgasm

Orgasm is a pleasurable, psychological and physical experience. The most common and well-known orgasmic experience occurs in the pelvis and anus area as a contraction of the muscles and a rush of endorphins in the brain. Ejaculation for women is known as "squirting", when fluid (Not urine!) flows from the woman's prostate gland, i.e. Skene's gland.

This post is specifically about male ejaculation, because it raises the most questions in connection with (neo)tantric massage.

Ejaculation and orgasm are separate occurrence

I often hear men talking about orgasm, which refers to ejaculation. In reality, ejaculation and orgasm are separate occurrence, so it's possible for the male to have several (whole body) orgasms without ejaculating.

According to the Taoist sexology, the male doesn't always need to ejaculate, because energy and vitality are lost in with it. According to Taoism, ejaculation is necessary only when the purpose is to conceive a child.

Most men may recognize the feeling of exhaustion = hangover feeling after the release. It is said that the older a man's body gets, the less often he should ejaculate. On the other hand, according to some studies, ejaculations of the male body reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer. However, it is very individual how often an individual feels the need to ejaculate. I think it's good to look at things from a different perspective, to question beliefs and things learned regarding e.g. to the need to ejaculate. 

This leads to one of the most frequently asked questions, i.e.:

How do you approach ejaculation and orgasm in (neo)tantric massage?

If a male person ejaculates, it is not to be condemned in any way, but neither is the purpose or goal itself. Sexual energy is a healing, vitality-increasing force. And when this energy is lost with the semen, it doesn't have the previously mentioned effects. Awakening, recycling and expanding sexual energy, i.e. the journey itself, is more essential than reaching the peak climax. Many men who refrain from ejaculating have reported that the intensity, energy and pleasure of orgasms have increased considerably. 

Importance of pelvic floor muscles

One very essential muscle that should be balanced and strengthened just like any other is the pelvic floor muscles, i.e. the PC muscle group (pubococcygeys). It is like a hammock, which is attached from the pubic bone to the coccyx, and approx. 5-8 cm is attached to the scrotum. This muscle group is a very significant "sex muscle" and therefore plays a very central role in terms of sexual health. When this muscle group is strengthened, erections and orgasms are also strengthened, and with it, the male can control his ejaculations, i.e. prolong both his own and his partner's pleasure. In addition, it enables multiple orgasms, i.e. several consecutive orgasms.

Pelvic floor muscle training can be done by contracting and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles. That is, just as if you were holding back urine (and defecation). You can practice it concretely by pausing to urinate, holding back for a few seconds, and continuing to urinate more forcefully. This can be continued as long as there is enough. You can also do the exercise without going to the bathroom, for example, while sitting in the car. Please note that relaxing the pelvic area also plays a very important role. In most people, the muscles of the pelvic floor are too tight, in which case different movements, treatment of deeper fascia and muscles are necessary to relax them.

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